Surviving holidays with your Ex
12/19/2012 8:08:00 AM
Add to the rest of the holiday stress having to sit at the holiday dinner table with your Ex. There's a reason you're Exes. You don't want to see each other. But if you have children and extended families, the likelihood is strong that you will.
If your divorce or break-up was amicable, the experience may not be as difficult as it is for those who've been through long, contentious splits. Either way, these tips are a good guide to getting through without getting crazy!
1. Make sure you're over your ex. Take some time in advance to sort out your feelings. If you have lingering feelings, try to understand what you miss, what you want and why you broke up. If your lingering feelings are all negative, try to put them in perspective. Remember it's just one night to get through - and try to keep yourself occupied talking to other people. Ones that you like.
2. Keep snide remarks to yourself. Even if your ex is with someone new. Once you've broken up, you're both free to move on.
3. Don't argue in front of friends; and if you must argue - take it away from the party.
Basically, it all comes down to: Hold your tongue ... just for a few hours. Then walk away with your head high.
For more tips on coping with the many aspects of divorce, click here.